My God is a They

I know the older generation has a hard time with this ‘they’ pronoun that we need to get used to using. They feel it’s not right. But what’s not right is that we don’t have a proper pronoun for a non-binary person!! We should. And we don’t’ so we are stuck with ‘they’.  But we use ‘they’ ALL THE TIME without realizing it when we don’t know the gender of a person to which we are referring. I’ll give you an example. I need to talk to someone at customer support. Get them on the phone!. We don’t say ‘get her on the phone’ or get him on the phone’, because we don’t know the gender of this customer support person. It’s already in our daily vernacular. I believe we can all get used to using ‘they’ to refer to those who feel neither like a man nor a woman but rather feel just like a person. Many other languages have proper pronouns when referring to nonbinary, or non-gender specific persons. The Finnish have always had the gender-neutral pronoun Han. Who doesn’t love the Finns. They also gave us saunas.

Being non-binary is probably the most balanced a person can be. I’m not saying its easy, but I’m saying we live in a world of duality, ying and yang, male and female, and I believe our goal in this life is to learn to balance the duality of life, and if you don’t identify with being male or female, or rather you identify with having both male and female qualities, I would think you wouldn’t be too masculine or too feminine and I would think that this gives you a bit of balance and perspective in this highly polarized world of duality. I would think. I don’t know. I am a woman and my pronoun is ‘she’, ‘her’ or ‘weirdo’ or ‘it’ or ‘they’ if someone doesn’t know my gender. This is just a theory. I know I have both male and female qualities in me and I really do strive for balance. I love my tomboy side, and I love it when my husband cries at the Sarah Mclaughjin commercials about abandoned and abused animals. Balance.

I did hear a comedian say that the highest rate of divorce is with lesbians. And the lowest is gay men. Interesting. He blamed woman as the problem. Maybe he’s right. I don’t know. I did laugh pretty hard. He also said they call them ‘Gay’ for a reason. It means happy. I do know that balance is the key in anything, especially relationships. You need balance in energies. Or a balance in duties. It’s all an energy exchange and we always seek balance. That balance can be achieved with two woman or two men or a man and a woman, but it can also be off balance for many reasons, nothing having to do with identifying as a man or a woman, but rather the energies are not balanced, or maybe one of you doesn’t ever do the dishes, and that’s not fair and balanced. Just sayin.

So unless we create a new pronoun for nonbinary people, then we will use ‘they’, and embrace the beautiful qualities of what that means. We use the pronoun ‘He’ way too often when talking about God. I’ve decided that from now on, my God is a ‘They’. That makes perfect sense to me. Who’s with me on that? And surveys show most people believe in Angles of some sort and they have always been nonbinary, although we have a hard time thinking of them in those terms. But we should think in those terms. It’s time to strike a balance and perhaps create a much needed new pronoun and balanced way of thinking.